Boys are great.
It's true. But I think we girls rely on them too heavily to make our lives exciting. Whenever there's a dance, you always hear a bunch of girls say that the dance wasn't fun. When asked why, the answer ALWAYS has to do with boys. "There weren't enough boys." or "No boys asked me to dance."
I like boys, but they shouldn't ruin your fun! It always makes me sad when I hear people say how they didn't have fun at a dance. Dances are for dancing, not for worrying about men. Its not like they have some special power that allows them to control how much fun you have. Unless, of course, you give that power to them.
I think that the fact that there are boys at these functions get hyped up too much, too. (I have just as much fun at Girls Camp as I do at Youth Conference.) As my Mia Maids Leader so wisely put it, "Boys are people, too."
They're just people. They're not that different from girls. Girls can be awkward, creepy, gorgeous, shy, outgoing, funny, etc, too. Those are not characteristics that only inhabit males. The fun/special thing about boys is you can like them. (which I guess is pretty substantial...)
And this is slightly unrelated, but I've decided that 'lady's choice' dances are evil, in every way. They are training boys to be lazy and never ask girls to dance. And boys need to know how to ask girls. They're the one's who always ask the important things, like "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you marry me?". Asking girls to dance helps train boys for this, but when girls do it, it ruins everything. Plus, it's just not exciting for the girl in any way. At all.
So it needs to stop! *pounds fist on table for emphasis*
I agree Nina! But girls need to realize that guys are shy and afraid of rejection from girls which is happening a lot lately. Because most girls are to COOL to do ANYTHING, dancing included. Which I guess boys haven't figured out yet, that the girls that shut them down are SHALLOW! But most girls are very nice and love being asked to dance... like ME!
ReplyDeleteAnd if a guy asks you to dance and you don't really like him, dance with him any way. Because guys notice if you turn another guys down and they will be afraid to be turned down too.
I say if the boys don’t come to you, you go to the boys… and then the boys will come, I PROMISE!
But I ALWAYS go to the boys and they DON'T COME BACK!!! That's my problem, megan!
ReplyDeleteAnd I've never, not once, seen a guy be turned down at a dance. Either I'm not looking, or they're imagining this fear.
Nina, you just put down my very feelings. I used to be one of those girls, and IT SUCKED. Luckily, I realized that I don't like letting people have control over me, and when you expect boys to make your night, than they have waaaaay to much control over you. I don't like basing my emotions on people. It is much better when it comes from me. ^_^ Now I have fun at every dance! I mean, just tell yourself you are going to have fun, and then proceed to have fun! Boys naturally gravitate to those girls who look like they would be fun to dance with anyways, not sullen wall flowers.
ReplyDeleteMy motto is: If the boys come, great! If they don't, great!
Plus boys ARE people too. I feel really bad for them actually. The girls in our stake can be quite rude to them. :) I loved what you said about girls being creepy/weird/disgusting too. I absoultely LOATHE it when girls talk about how creepy a boy was when they danced with him. I mean, he has feelings too! What if he was saying the same thing about her? It is just inbelievably rude to me, to think that someone so high above others as to dish out judgment on the guys who ARE asking them to dance. I mean, at least they got asked right?! I find it flattering if ANY boys asks me to dance, whether they be awesome or not.
I mean, would Christ to do that to someone?
I used to do this very same thing too, and then I realized how mean I was being. Sometimes I do it now, but I only talk about it when I find it amusing, instead of creepy. And I try to not say it in a judging tone. If I do, pinch me. :)
Plus I have SO MANY stories of me being a grade A creeper, so I can't really judge anyone at a dance too harshly, can I? ^_^
Nina, you just need to smile and be happy which wont be hard for you since you are like that practickly every second of the day. And I have seen and heard of girls turning down guys and it is SO MEAN! I just want to walk up to those girls smack them upside the head and say 'If you don't like them YOU STILL HAVE TO DANCE WITH THEM!!!'and 'IT'S A DANCE NOT A STAND AROUND AND TALK FOR THREE HOURS!!!'
ReplyDeleteLet's face it we are human not perfect. So I am sure everyone will be creepy at one time in their life at least. But it is the boys job to ask girls and they fail to do that most of the time. I'm just sayin'.
Sarah I LOVE your motto! It made me smile!
Bravo ladies, bravo.
ReplyDeleteAh, the joys of dances...
ReplyDeleteI agree with your philisophy, Nina, on Girls' Choice dances. But I'm pretty sure our Leader's Choice was one of the best ideas in the world. It made my night just watching Sis. Haslam scouting out the boys. :)
And Sarah- that's always been my motto, about life in general. I've had WAY too many overdramatic friends whose happiness is entirely dependent on boys liking them. I just decided to be happy whether or not boys like me or talk to me or ask me to dance. And anyway, I have other things to worry about and I don't like being depressed.
I try to NEVER be mean to the boys that dance with me. Even if they are awkward, I try to look for the good things about them that stick out to me. And I can ALWAYS find them.
I love dances, and I love you, my dear dancing friends. :)
Sarah: You took the words right out of my mouth. And I feel bad for them, too! Boys don't deserve the meanness we girls are so quick to give...
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm SO GOOD at being creepy. Remember how I told you I stalked Sam? :P
Megan: That's really sad. :( You should smack um next time, for me. That'd make me really happy. And it's not MY fault those girls turn them down. It's still their job to ask me...
Lara: HAHA Sister Haslam is AMAZING!! I love her so. :) And that's true. I like boys, but I'm not dependant on them to be happy. I like being happy, and I like boys. Can't I have them both?
I love you, too, dancing friend. :)
Oh guy, the last dance I went to we did a snow ball! It's when a few people start danceing and then the leaders freeze the music then the people that were dancing have to find new people to dance with, and so on and so forth. It was AWESOME! And it got alto of people to dance!
ReplyDeleteSnowballs can be fun. But it's sad when there aren't enough boys, or when they only give you enough time to say "Hey, my name's Megan. What's yours? OH, time to switch!"
ReplyDeleteDid that happen at yours?
Well, kind of. I asked someone to dance right before the song ended, but we just danced through the next song, because they only did the snow ball for one song.
ReplyDeleteI hate snowball dances. It's way too rushed and I get to say about 3 words to the guy before I get abandoned and stand partnerless in the middle of the dance floor. Blech.
ReplyDeleteAnd Nina, yes you can have them both. Just not yet. Ask Manisha about it, if you really want to know. :)
Aww, poor Lara. I can just see you sniffling there, in the dark on the dance floor, in my mind's eye. So sad...
ReplyDeleteYou think Manisha doesn't tell me about it for hours every time I talk to her? She makes me jealous with her love and mush. I want a man, too!
NO NINA DON'T DO IT! If you get a man you will act all goo-goo ga-ga and really who wants to see that? I forbid you to speak with anyone until you are old enough... to... speak? ;)
ReplyDeleteBuuuutt megan! I NEED to speak to people! Otherwise I'll end up homeschooled and socially awkward. Like you.
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